Misser April 18, 2013

My daughter is about to go to college. She is my favorite daughter. I know she wants a good education, and I want her to have one too. I just would miss her so much, even with letters or e-mail. What can I do?
 Daughter Misser


Dear Misser,
Well, the time has come hasn’t it? Your baby is all grown up and moving out of the house. You do understand this is a huge step not only for you, but her as well. I’m sure she’s ecstatic to be moving out and on her own, but I also know that she’s nervous and worried that things won’t go the way she planned.

Even though you are going to miss her tremendously, you have to let her go and experience life on her own. You also have to let her make mistakes. How else is she going to learn how to adapt? You can’t be babying her and walking her through every step along the way. Let her grow. Swallow your pride and smile as you wave goodbye. You’ve raised a smart young woman, I mean, hello, she’s going to college! You’ve got a winner, but let her grow and learn about real life. Because face it, when things go wrong and she is just stressing, who is she going to go to? Her mom.

You will always be there for her and she knows that. She knows she can count on you to help her through thick and thin ... and possibly with bail money. No, I kid. But in reality, your relationship with her isn’t going to change, she’s just moving further away.
You said it yourself, you’ll have letters, emails, phone calls, Facebook, and Family get togethers to keep the bond strong. She’ll survive, you’ll survive and when she graduates, you’ll be even prouder of her.
Good luck!

(Editor’s note: This will be the last column of Straight Up due to lack of interest. It’s been fun being real with y’all, but it’s time to move on.)


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